Have you ever noticed: people who talk less tend to say more? It may even be fair to say, people who talk less get paid more. Most of us don't think of listening to be a skill we get paid for something we do naturally. but we fail to understand the difference between hearing and listening. you see, hearing is involuntary, but listening is voluntary. The old Chinese proverb is in voluntary. The old Chinese proverb makes this point well: 'We look but we don't see; we hear but we don't listen ...' . To listen we must pay attention.
Your attention is a valuable commodity. Organisation pay vast sums of money to make TV commercials and design pesters that grab your attention, there are sounds, songs and jingles that compete for your attention too. But listening is the act of consciously focusing on one of them. It's not a passive activity. It's a choice.
Your full attention is the most valuable gift you can give to another.
In fact your full attention is the most valuable gift you can give to another. It's an act of love. Pay little attention to your partner and soon your partner will have little attention for you. Pay little attention to your children and soon they'll have little attention for anything. Aka: attention deficit disorder. Your attention affirms the other person's existence. Nobody wants to be ignored or feel like they don't matter. In a sense, love is simply attention.
It's always a compliment to be called a good listener. And you can't fake it. People know when they're not being listened to. When we listen we fully understand the needs of our parents, reduce miss communications and build strong relationships. Listening is at the heart of communication, and everything that helps you to be a good communicator is valuable in career terms too.
Unfortunately, people who want to climb the career ladder often believe that talking a lot will help them than listening. And that's because they see that well-rewarded people are often confident, articulate, eloquent, filled with interesting ideas and things to say. But in their efforts to sound smart they use complex language and ambiguous terminology, criticize their colleagues' ideas in meetings and snip the ends off others' sentences. Simply, they talk a lot and don't listen enough.
In fact your full attention is the most valuable gift you can give to another. It's an act of love. Pay little attention to your partner and soon your partner will have little attention for you. Pay little attention to your children and soon they'll have little attention for anything. Aka: attention deficit disorder. Your attention affirms the other person's existence. Nobody wants to be ignored or feel like they don't matter. In a sense, love is simply attention.
It's always a compliment to be called a good listener. And you can't fake it. People know when they're not being listened to. When we listen we fully understand the needs of our parents, reduce miss communications and build strong relationships. Listening is at the heart of communication, and everything that helps you to be a good communicator is valuable in career terms too.
Unfortunately, people who want to climb the career ladder often believe that talking a lot will help them than listening. And that's because they see that well-rewarded people are often confident, articulate, eloquent, filled with interesting ideas and things to say. But in their efforts to sound smart they use complex language and ambiguous terminology, criticize their colleagues' ideas in meetings and snip the ends off others' sentences. Simply, they talk a lot and don't listen enough.
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