Chapter 34 Play

Some people seem to take this whole self-development business too seriously. Perhaps that's because, for some, 'making it' or winning is all that matters in life. Give it a break, I say. but other people don't take themselves seriously enough. For them, the only thing that matters is having fun. Wise up, is my advice. You see, we need to aim for the middle ground, because a more fulfilling life requires a balance between playfulness and seriousness. Yes, that b word again.

The number one deathbed regret is taking life too seriously. So don't let it be yours.

In our must-get-something-done culture there is often little time to play and have fun. But know this now: the number one deathbed regret is taking life too seriously. So don't let it be yours. What's more, having fun will keep you away from that bed for longer, because play and laughter is good for your health. It helps to reduce stress and it release endorphins that give you a natural high.

Understand: having fun doesn't have to involve crazy, reckless behavior. Fun in life means more smiling, more laughter and better relationships. It has benefits at work too. And, as I've discovered in karate, it's a performance enhancer. Chuang Tzu, the Chinese philosopher, put it well when he said: 'When archers shoot for a brass buckle, they get nervous; when they shoot for a prize of gold, they begin to see two targets'. You see, when you're relaxed, playful and not fixed on the outcome performance improves.

Sadly, having fun isn't acceptable in all environments. Early on in my career my manager told me I wouldn't be taken seriously if I smiled too mush. I'm not kidding. Some people truly believe they must become serious
to be taken seriously. I disagree. It shows confidence, control and authority if you can lighten the atmosphere. What's more, if you're having fun at work you'll be less stressed, more tolerant of menial tasks and more satisfied with your job. It's not hard work if you're having fun- it's play.


No one is saying we should be all smiles and giggles. That would be inappropriate in most situations. But pick your moments, relax and have fun. It'll help to keep your personal problems in perspective too. Because if you can laugh at your troubles, you'll always have something to laugh at.