For some people everything is a contest. They always try to be first, get to the top, or be number one. They complete to have whatever the latest thing is. At work they constantly push for progress, and operate like warriors engaged in battle against the enemy.
Make no mistake. there's nothing wrong with trying to be the best, win , or be number one. In fact, the will to win is an important source of motivation. It provides drive and determination. But to win in life, it pays to remember that 'b' word again: balance.
You see, if winning is the only reason you take part in an activity then you're looking for trouble. When your life is all about one thing, that one thing can break you. So tale a step back. Look at the bigger picture. Seek balance. As any professional athlete will tell you : winning does matter, but it's not everything.
True enough, losing isn't easy - especially when you're emotionally attached to the outcome. Winning feels better, for sure. In fact, for most people their self-worth is wrapped up in winning, and that wrapping is easily
unraveled. there is, however, an alternative approach to winning. It's a tried and tested approach. An approach that protects you from the dangers that lie on the path to being the best.
So what is it? In short:treat winning and losing the same. why? Because sooner or later the thrill of winning will subside. And before long you'll have to start working to win again. You see, in the end the outcome is the same. If you lose, you have to work. If you win, you have to work too. That's not to day you shouldn't enjoy your wins. but the jubilation of winning is transitory, and so is the disappointment of losing. the sooner you allow those feelings to pass, the sooner you can get back to the process. Which, in end, is the real goal.
No comments:
Post a Comment