Chapter 25 Decide

In life, there is always a choice to make. At every moment of the day we have to decide what to focus on, what to think about and what to do. But often we operate from automatic patterns of behavior. We jump to conclusions, react impulsively and think repetitive thoughts. But to live a more fulfilling life we need to learn how to make clear, conscious and unbiased decisions.

We're all had the experience of felling indecisive. It's an uncomfortable feeling. So often, to avoid the discomfort, we make snap decisions, react, and stick to old patterns. To make better decisions, react, and stick to old patterns. to make better decisions, though, we need to accept things being in limbo for awhile. We need to take a step back. When we consider the details of our situation and all the available options we can see clearly what needs to be different and the possibilities for change. Simple questions like: 'What exactly is happening now?' and 'How is this a problem for me?' can help to provide that clarity. So when in doubt see it as a signal to stop and think.

Another hindrance to making better decisions is the fear of being wrong. We don't want to make mistake. So we stay stuck. And instead of creating space to see clearly we create anxiety, and allow things to get worse. Understand: we won't always be able to make the right decision. But we can always make our decision right. In order words, whatever we decide, the outcome of our decision will provide us with a lesson. And if we listen and learn we'll be one step closer to making the right decision.

We won't always be able to make the right decision. But we can always make our decision right.


For instance, you may choose the wrong partner or job but at least you'll know that's not what you want. Next time you'll have a better idea of what you're looking for and what's important. So don't hold back. Make the decision. Listen to the feedback. And them make adjustments.